When the elephants arrive

It is amazing how much better I am sleeping post-wedding. The two weeks leading up to the event, I hardly slept at all, worrying about all the things that needed to be done and trying to remember everything. Working to make sure the event came off perfectly and doing my best so that April need do as little as possible. And then it was over, and I could rest again. Now that we’re back from the honeymoon, I’m sleeping all night for the first time in almost a month, and I feel fantastic. Thank you God.

What is interesting is that I don’t feel much different relationship-wise. April and I are perhaps a bit closer than we were. Certainly more committed, what with vows and such… but I’ve felt this committed to her for a while now. I’ve felt this close to her for a year. It’s really nice to be able to call her my wife and Mrs. April Stublefield and all, but I don’t feel different. Which, quite frankly, I find really nice. It’s comforting to 1) know that we’re good together and have been for a while, and 2) just be able to live with her and be normal. If there was a major shift, there’d be some major eustress as well, and I’m kind of glad there isn’t. Maybe I, or we, are weird… I know April feels more of a difference than I do. But I can’t help but think that we’re different from a lot of couples I know.

We’re nearing the end of the paperwork cycle. I need to get the car stuff taken care of next week (I forgot the paperwork at home today), and get the insurance switched, etc. April got her name changed yesterday and should receive a new social security card in a couple of weeks, and she’s waiting until after she turns 21 to get a new driver’s license. Once we finish the paperwork, finish decorating, and get all of the bank accounts consolidated, I’ll probably feel “more” married, if that makes sense. Like it’s a process we’re still going through. The vows are done, but there’s still a lot of work ahead. Once that work is done, we can relax and just be.

Today marks the beginning of a three day weekend, about which I am rather excited. We’ve got a few errands to run, a party tomorrow night, and an entire day devoted to playing games, so it should be fabulous. Also, Brenda-sama has come and began the process of emptying our dining room by absconding with a variety of kitchenware. If you would like to peruse our overloaded dining room, let me know and come find something that can help you. There’s still pots and pans, bakeware, blankets and sheets, a fan, lots of old books…

Photos will hopefully be up tomorrow. I’ll write again once we get them posted.

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